Yesterday I was reading this short novel... You know the kind, small, romantic, with plenty of sex scenes that make one's heart beat faster... The cheap things they sell everywhere from Harlequin. Before you crucify me may I remind you that there is such a thing as freedom to choose what you read!!!!
Anyway... I found myself asking one of my colleagues why men are never like they are in those books... Strong, yet gentle, romantic, always sweeping us off our feet, making love for hours but always concerned with pleasing us more and more, dominating yet not humiliating us... A sort of modern day heterosexual Rudolph Valentino in "The Sheik", you know?
She said it was because these books were written by women and that made me think: Are we setting the bar to high?
Lets face it, relationships are all but dying and we (me alike) tend to blame the male in the equation. But what if due to the influence of movies, books and magazines, we are but trying to turn man into an object of fantasy?
There isn't such a thing as the "perfect man" who will come to our rescue, no man that will come to us in the dancefloor and just dance with us in a manner so sensual that we will just melt, none that when we fight will just kiss us till we shut up and forget what the hell we were yealling about, that will hold ours hand in the sunset... yadda yadda yadda, you know the story. A man with all those qualities does not exist. Cause lets face it... even Rudolph Valentino was gay...
He will have moody days, look at other girls or other boys (dont be narrow minded people), leave his dirty sox on the floor, forget birthdays, forget the date we had, go out partying with his friends and return drunk... and lots of other things.
And so what? We do too!!!!
Hell I am a girl and i admit it: I am a BITCH!
My moods are legendary, I look at other boys and girls (more girls then boys) and my room is an ode to anarchy!
So what?
Adjust, adapt, but dont change who you are to please someone, and for the godess's sake, dont try to change them either.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
The definition of a BGGE
Hello and welcome to the first edition of Bad Girls Go Everywhere!
This project came to be due to some people nagging again and again that i should make a blog that was actually in english cause they wanted to know what i was writing.
To all you lot, stop sending the e-mails already!
So what is a BGGE?
The classical definition of a Bad Girl is someone rather bitchy that picks on others and goes around doing stuff that would or should probably get her arrested. And to those girls i send a big Hello!
A BGGE is not like that however. A Bad Girl that Goes Everywhere is a girl that knows what she wants, has objectives and dreams. Even if those dreams are just being a mother or a wife. A BGGE does everything with her own style, has a social and political conscience and is not afraid to stand up for her beliefs. She will be there fighting for human rights, she will be the one throwing a bucket of paint onto someone wearing animal furs, she will be the nerdy girl that is studying late in the library to get the best grades, she will be the lead singer on the most awesome band on stage singing her heart out for you.
Most of all she will be the friend that perhaps is not always by your side or going out with you, but that you always know will be there when you really need a friend and will never bail on you when all hell brakes loose.
BGGE's are usually busy, it will be hard to find her not doing something, wether it is working, going out with friends, taking a degree, shopping, checking out the latest art exihibition or creating their own, getting updated on the latest news or fighting for a cause.
A BGGE has her opinion on things that matter to her and wont hide them. If she does not like you, trust me, you will know. She does not define herself by the boyfriend she has or the people she hangs out with. She can be quiet or loud depending on the mood and to her multi-tasking is not just a skill, it will be her way of life.
BGGE's like fashion, even if their sense of fashion is different from the main stream, in fact, BGGE's usually are. Be it goth, pin up, fetishist, nerdy, sporty, rocker, artist.... She will be different and she will love being different, even because most BGGE's like to shock and refuse to be dictated by what society whats them to be! They will forever be non-conformist!!!
They are not SaRaH's (Single, Rich and Happy), always driven by career and neglecting everyone else, nor are they Downshifters that will take a low paying job to be able to do all the other things. BGGE's know their worth and will often pamper them and their friends up as often as possible, they have quite the ego but are not arrogant.
They will do crazy stuff like swimming in a public fountain in their underwear at four a.m. (remember that night, Sibilla?) without needing alcohol to do so, they are likely to get in a car and just drive and enjoy the cenery without any destination, they attend the most outrageous parties and usually they are shameless!
This what being a BGGE is, in a nutshell, though there is plenty of more things to come, so stick around and lets see if this nice little corner will provide some help and some fun.
And remember, whatever you do, do it in your own style!
This project came to be due to some people nagging again and again that i should make a blog that was actually in english cause they wanted to know what i was writing.
To all you lot, stop sending the e-mails already!
So what is a BGGE?
The classical definition of a Bad Girl is someone rather bitchy that picks on others and goes around doing stuff that would or should probably get her arrested. And to those girls i send a big Hello!
A BGGE is not like that however. A Bad Girl that Goes Everywhere is a girl that knows what she wants, has objectives and dreams. Even if those dreams are just being a mother or a wife. A BGGE does everything with her own style, has a social and political conscience and is not afraid to stand up for her beliefs. She will be there fighting for human rights, she will be the one throwing a bucket of paint onto someone wearing animal furs, she will be the nerdy girl that is studying late in the library to get the best grades, she will be the lead singer on the most awesome band on stage singing her heart out for you.
Most of all she will be the friend that perhaps is not always by your side or going out with you, but that you always know will be there when you really need a friend and will never bail on you when all hell brakes loose.
BGGE's are usually busy, it will be hard to find her not doing something, wether it is working, going out with friends, taking a degree, shopping, checking out the latest art exihibition or creating their own, getting updated on the latest news or fighting for a cause.
A BGGE has her opinion on things that matter to her and wont hide them. If she does not like you, trust me, you will know. She does not define herself by the boyfriend she has or the people she hangs out with. She can be quiet or loud depending on the mood and to her multi-tasking is not just a skill, it will be her way of life.
BGGE's like fashion, even if their sense of fashion is different from the main stream, in fact, BGGE's usually are. Be it goth, pin up, fetishist, nerdy, sporty, rocker, artist.... She will be different and she will love being different, even because most BGGE's like to shock and refuse to be dictated by what society whats them to be! They will forever be non-conformist!!!
They are not SaRaH's (Single, Rich and Happy), always driven by career and neglecting everyone else, nor are they Downshifters that will take a low paying job to be able to do all the other things. BGGE's know their worth and will often pamper them and their friends up as often as possible, they have quite the ego but are not arrogant.
They will do crazy stuff like swimming in a public fountain in their underwear at four a.m. (remember that night, Sibilla?) without needing alcohol to do so, they are likely to get in a car and just drive and enjoy the cenery without any destination, they attend the most outrageous parties and usually they are shameless!
This what being a BGGE is, in a nutshell, though there is plenty of more things to come, so stick around and lets see if this nice little corner will provide some help and some fun.
And remember, whatever you do, do it in your own style!
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